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8 MONTHS


It is so, so hard to believe that our littlest one is already 8 months old. The amount of changes that have happened in that time are pretty unreal. Phoebe is the sweetest gift. Her temperament is so calm and gentle and go-with-flow. She's getting all four top teeth right now making for some long days for all (I may have been in the fetal position at 6pm last night). Crawling is old hat and she just makes all of us coo and act ridiculous as we fawn over her chubby legs and arm rolls. I am so thankful that we took the plunge and had another baby. I can't believe we almost didn't. I hope that that may encourage any of you who are on the fence about baby #2. Bliss I tell ya.

What is not bliss is dealing with teenage-like tantrums and disrespect lately. How does one garner respect from a child? Matilda is so wonderful with everyone else and so hard on me. Not sure what I am doing wrong. We are having WW2 battles just about every day and I feel like I'm not doing anything right. I was so exhausted last night and read a really sweet post from another mom blogger and I just thought, "well crap. I just can't compete with that." Needing a good dose of patience and some wisdom. My biggest prayer is to be just the right mom for my girls and to have wonderful relationships with them. We are also in this really interesting "I don't want to nap" phase even though naps are still totally needed. I'm nervous to make plans because behavior can go either way and then I have Phoebe's naps to think about... (I swear having two kids really is awesome! haha). I would love to hear how you guys are planning out your summer days with entertaining kids and babies. Help?

Also, please pray for some dear friends of mine who have way more serious things happening in their lives. Cancer is a terrifying disease that many of us are affected by and it breaks my heart. I want so badly for there to be a cure. I laid in bed last night weeping for a mother who lost a child and a friend whose husband is in treatment. So many emotions these days. I'm in a season of feeling quite overwhelmed and in awe of life.

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  1. I'm expecting my first in January so I don't have any words of wisdom to share, but I love reading your posts about motherhood and will definitely be saying prayers for your friends. I have a family member dealing with cancer and it's so hard... there is only so much you can do and the rest is in God's hands.

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    1. thank you so much jenna! congrats on your baby and i'll say a prayer for your family member, too. xo

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  2. Life can hit so hard sometimes and you're wise to just hold tight to the love you have and be grateful. Sometimes that is all we can do.
    I have no sage wisdom about tantrums but can tell you that it will pass. Just stay consistent and nip that crap in the bud when they are disrespectful. I think I've said this before but I always felt like I had to almost "break their spirit" at a certain age. With my first two girls it was 3 and a half years old. With my third daughter it was closer to 4. She is just now 4 and a half and is starting to mellow. Feisty little thang:) There was lots of room time and taking away things that meant a lot, like privileges. Figure out what means a lot to her (certain toy, computer time, a certain tutu ;) ) and take that away. one warning and done. These are just a few things I did and things seem to improve but it takes time. Agh, who am I kidding though, still figuring this whole thing out:) hang in there, friend. Jayne B.

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    1. as always jayne you made my laugh. her favorite thing right now other than the tutu is applejack who is in full custody. here's hoping i'm not still breaking spirits at 5!

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  3. Pez... first, girl you are doing EVERYTHING right! I'd love love love to chat with you anytime, but one thing I will say with regard to your post is take notice of P. Her go with the flow is no coincidence. As for M, she wants her Momma's full attention; and I'm guessing is getting a little less of it especially during this teething business. Naps, well everyone but toddlers & preschoolers love naps. I don't know your schedule but a Momma nap with M might be good for everyone for a short while. Hang in there, He never gives us more than we can handle but best of all never leaves us along. - Beth S.

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    1. beth! so wonderful to hear from you. thank you so much for the encouragement. you may be on to something with the mama nap. i could definitely use one! love to you and your family and i'd love to catch up sometime too. :)

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  4. I am not a momma yet, so take my opinion for what it is a non-momma opinion ;) But I think it's just because she probably spends more time with you than anyone else and therefore she's super comfortable with you. With that comfort level can come amazing and not so amazing behavior. She can be herself around you more than anyone and sometimes that little person is a ball of frustration. I know I was/am like that with my mom-she has seen and sees the really ugly and really pretty side of me. She's always allowed me to be transparent with my feelings and I am super thankful for that. I know one day Til will realize and be thankful for the same great characteristic in you.

    I know you are doing a great job and you are an AWESOME momma. Keep it up! :)

    xoxo

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    1. P.S.- My healthy relationship with my mom has lead to me seek out the same sort of honesty in all my relationships and I am a better human because of it. I know you are doing the same for your girls. I just know it!

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    2. thank you my beautiful friend. my mom has certainly seen the ugliest side of me too. i want her to feel comfortable with me to act like she truly feels just with a few days of rest in between the bad feelings. haha! being a lady is tough stuff. love you!

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    3. Amen lady, being a lady is tough stuff. Love you too!

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  5. Lesley, I feel like I'm reading about my own life. Ha! It's so refreshing knowing I'm not alone. Up until last weekend, I felt out of control. Like I'd snap at any minute. I've really had to take a step back and evaluate what sort of discipline strategy worked best for my little man. Now that I've figured it out, I'm sure something else will come up and make everything crazy again!! Motherhood, right!? Also, I'm at the stage where I'm wondering when the right time is for baby #2. My son is almost 2 1/2. Do you think having an older child with a baby is more helpful? It's just getting to the point where having them really close in age is sipping past us.

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    1. oh girl. you are so not alone! there really are positives and negatives to spacing out kids or not. matilda is an amazing helper. the only negative to waiting is that you get more and more comfortable and then you have to go back to all of the perils of infancy vs getting the hard bits out of the way over a few years. i don't think i would have survived going that route so four years for us has been great. good luck!

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  6. I read somewhere that our children are the hardest on us Moms. I don't know where I read that (maybe a post on On to Baby blog?..) I'd like to highlight this sentence from your post though: 'My biggest prayer is to be the right kind of Mom for my girls'.. You ARE the right kind of Mom for your girls, please never forget that. As I started to read this post(our babes were born I think a day or week apart) I thought "look at Be sitting on her own.. oh wait she's a crawling machine too? Will Oliver ever get there?!?" and felt myself questioning my mothering capabilities.. then I read THAT sentence and I wanted to comfort you (and maybe me?) because that's what kind strangers do when they read each other's blogs. Life isn't always cupcakes and rainbows, sometimes it's brussel sprouts and hail- but keep your chin up lady, because you're rocking at this job called Mom!

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    1. thank you dear jen! just so you know matilda didn't crawl until she was 10 months or walk until 17 months. all babies go at their own pace. i am sure that oliver will get there! be glad he's taking his time. :) i really appreciate your encouragement. can't thank you enough!

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  7. Hey Leslie, I am right there with you. I actually admitted at a family dinner Sunday I felt lost and wished my husband could stay home so my girls would turn out better ... they mind him. I have found a book that helped me a lot (when I followed it) called I Break for Meltdowns. I bought it after the first HUGE scared me so huge tantrum. I do find when I am really firm they mind better. Summer has been HARD. Trying to work at home and manage 3 little ones .. so this week the morning is PLAY time for all of us. Wears them out & I can get some things done in the afternoon. We're all trying to figure it out & doing the best we can. Girls are rough. -Laura

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    1. Oh Laura. I feel your pain. Matilda totally minds Sam and they always have so much fun together so I've had those moments too. My guess is that if the roles were reversed that we would be the shiny parents. Know what I mean? We get beat down through the week. Haha. I'll check out that book. Thanks for the recommendation and good luck. Hope things get better and better!

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  8. I'm not sure how old Matilda is, but my middle child is 2.5 and she is SO tough lately. I feel for you, Momma because I know it's hard. Keep on putting her down for naps and if she never sleeps, at least you both get a quiet time and some space to yourselves.
    My kids are 4, 2 and almost 4 months. EVERY afternoon everyone naps or has a quiet time. I NEED it and so do they. It keeps me sane.
    Stick with it, be consistent and love her BIG. You're awesome!!!

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  9. I seriously need more patience also, i have an almost three year old son and a baby due in sept. but seriously lacking the patience right now.

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