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DON'T GIVE UP


Over the last week or so I have heard this string of words on a number of occasions to the point that my ears perked up and I took notice. I've thought about what areas in my life that I could apply it to... myself, faith, marriage, motherhood, friendships, family, health, home, life. When I think of giving up I think of a conscious letting go of trying. I think of throwing in the hat, waving the white flag, ceasing all efforts.

What kept coming to the forefront of my mind was me. I've given up on me. Lately an area of deep seeded insecurity for me has been my appearance. As a mom we start our days early and we are often out the door quickly. What I wear to run Matilda to school some days is nothing short of embarrassing. I never thought I would be this person. I see some of the moms totally pulled together and I look down at my t-shirt covered in baby food and think "I could use a little work." Then I hear these words in my head, "They have just as many hours in a day as you have." Truth, right?! I am totally guilty of skipping shower/makeup in lieu of extra sleep or getting some work done. The only problem is it effects how I feel for the rest of the day. I've been giving up. I'm in a rut. My hair is piled up on my head every day, I rarely shave my legs, my nails stay chipped, I can't remember the last time I bought something cute to wear.

I've been discouraged by my lack of willpower and lack of care for my body. don't give up.
The zucchini I bought was rotten when I went to cook it last night. don't give up.
I compare myself to other moms with amazing wardrobes. don't give up.
Matilda said to me yesterday, "Mama I loved how you were on your wedding day." don't give up.

I want my family to be proud of me. I'm making it a priority to take better care of myself. I'm aware.

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22 comments :

  1. this hits home for me as I had a cry sesh yesterday over these exact things! love this post and encouragement <3

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    1. maybe i need to just cry it out too! glad you were encouraged!

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  2. i loved this post. there are so many factors that constantly knock us down daily but some how we can choose to get back up every time. i am dealing with that in my life right now. this was a good reminder to not give up. thanks.

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    1. aw sweet toria! thinking about you tonight. we can all use that reminder, huh?

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  3. I think we all go through seasons where we don't give ourselves the time and attention we deserve. It's all to easy to give it to work, to others, to chores, but I've always found when I spend a little time on myself it makes me a more grateful, giving person.

    Thanks for the reminder to not give up!

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  4. while it's true to we shouldn't give up & everyone needs to take time to take care of themselves I wanted to remind you that you are beautiful so please don't be too hard on yourself.
    but man, I tell you one thing- I always feel like I always need to try. Try to get that chore done, try to work on that house project, try to exercise, try to put makeup on, try to pray.. always trying and sometimes it's so hard keeping everything together and sometimes I want to give up. But then the dishes will stack up and my unibrow will grow in.. hang in there!

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    1. aw you are so sweet jen. thank you! also, this made me laugh out loud. tryin' is tirin'.

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  5. You've had a big year with the move and house renovations. And a new baby. So yes, I agree, don't give up. But do take it easy on yourself. I think the key is finding which areas of your life are important *to you*. Some moms are dressed and made up every day but I doubt they are doing a whole30 and keeping a super clean house and running a blog and and and..... So understand your priorities and act accordingly. (just my humble opinion)

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    1. Hi Lesley, it's Jeanie (former Anthro shopaholic and friend of Brittany Mehta). Just remember that there are women who look at you and feel the same way that you see these other women who seem to have it all. You are beautiful, you have fabulous clothes, you have my dream job, your house is to die for, etc, etc. Also, I remind myself that although my wardrobe/appearance may take a back burner now that I have two young children, my quality time with them creating memories is always what's most important. This time we have with them while they are young is over in a heartbeat. I see moms at the park everyday wearing their cute shoes/dresses/makeup/hair. Then there's me with my running shoes, old workout clothes, did I brush my teeth?, ponytail. But, I notice them on their phones, not interacting with their children (who may or may not be acting right) and I am right there in the dirt, splashing in puddles, climbing slides, throwing rocks, listening to their every word, giving my babes lasting memories and know that that is what's important right now. You're an amazing mom, I can hear it in your posts.

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    2. thank you for the support kelly and being a cheerleader. you are so awesome!

      HI jeanie!!! what an awesome thing to hear from you. miss seeing your face. thank you for giving me some much needed perspective. i too leave the house often forgetting to brush my teeth. that made me laugh! hope you are doing so well. you've inspired me to get in some mud puddles! xoxo

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  6. Two days in a row you are reading my mind! I work full time, so I tend to give up on other things (I have to make time to look nice for work) like cooking healthy meals, hobbies, and working out. Thanks for making me feel like I am not the only one struggling with this.

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    1. aw twin lives. full time working mama is no joke. i have no doubt you are doing the very best you can. be gentle with yourself (need to take my own advice).

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  7. I'm the same way! I look at my house and I think what I would do to have it clean again... thoughts of before baby, the house was always nice and neat, smelled good. My appearance too... my first thought, I'll just put yoga clothes on and it will look like I just worked out, then I'll look fine right? I love your honestly and brave heart, you are a true inspiration. BTW when I saw you the other day at Harry's, I thought she is so darn cute! How does she do it :) xo

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    1. the sweetest comment! you made my day sweet lady.

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  8. I thought of this post last night when Ella as pitching a fit on the floor, the dogs were barking madly at the door, and all I wanted to do was drink a glass of wine, er, a bottle of wine. Instead I put Ella in her pjs and we all went for a long walk. I got exercise and she got fresh air. Don't Give Up.

    I'd also say a little bit goes a long way - maybe you need to add one "Lesley" thing to your to-do list each day - whether its painting your fingernails, having a workout, or a bubble bath. You are just as important as the girls, your work, the house, and same. I'm going to try this tactic myself.

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    1. you have THE best advice. thank you so much meghan. glad you were able to get some fresh air and just one thing a day... i can totally manage that. XO

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  9. What an awesome post! Just came across your blog and somehow I needed to read this today! I agree we all have seasons and the last week I felt like I was giving up on myself for other reasons. I loved the letting go of trying. It made me realise just how important it is to not stop trying. Thank you!

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  10. What a supportive and encouraging post! Thank you!

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  11. When I look in the mirror, the first thing I notice is my furrowed brow or my peekaboo gray hairs [after 2 weeks of fresh color]. Then, it's the way my skin folds over my jeans when I sit down after a meal I really loved but couldn't fully enjoy because allowing myself to indulge a little too much would mean I wasn't following the rules of moderation. I find myself, at times, looking at this reflection in the mirror and wondering, "What happened?" I spent so many years focusing on just me and now it's not about me at all. I understand the weight of your words and the gravity of this post. But what I also know is that as women, we are our own worst critics. Too often we find ourselves tangled in the sticky web known as comparison otherwise known as the "thief of joy." The other day I was having a "sticky web" moment and I happened to read a post from one of my most favorite blogs http://www.marcandangel.com/2014/01/29/10-painfully-obvious-truths-everyone-forgets-too-soon/ and the one thing that resonated with me the most was number one, "The average human life is relatively short." As I read that, I imagined my late father whispering in my ear..."Did you hear that Noots, it's really, really, really short." The magnitude of that one sentence sent chills down my spine. Because it's the truth. Remember to just be. Be more of what you love and less of what you're worried about. We have had two encounters, and I think you are lovely, warm, kind and infectious. Your thick ginger top-knot is perfect. It's one of the things I most remember about you from our second visit. Your poignant disclosure is beautiful and touching. Don't give up being just the way you are.

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