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I've written this post in my head about five times and then every time I sit down to blog it out it disappears. Let's roll with this. So, community. I think community is extremely important. I'm a people person. I feel so stir crazy if I sit inside all day and don't get out of the house to interact and fellowship in some way. Sam and I just joined a community group that I'm really excited about. We meet with other couples once a week and then we'll serve our community together and grow as friends and support and lift each other up. Right now we are sharing our stories and getting to know each other better. This can be super daunting... that whole pouring your heart out, being vulnerable thing is a tough one.

Something that I was sharing with a friend the other day at the park is that I want my daughters to understand and act out inclusiveness in their own "communities." I struggle with the notion of cliques and "besties." I seriously hate that word. I know people love it but let me just share my heart on why I have a distaste for it (I can hear Matilda now... "Mommy, don't say hate"). For me community is all about letting people in, working together for the common good, being a loving and embracing group of people. Even though I do have close, close friends that are my "best friends" I try not to shove that in any of my friends faces. You know? I want to love on all of my friends. All of this brings me to blogging. Sometimes it can feel a bit like high school and I've worked through that and don't care most days. What I don't like and what I hope to not ever do is to make someone feel like they're not cool enough to interact with. Ugh. I mean, I think it's important to respond to tweets, messages, etc. I hope that this space can be a place that feels comfy. It's my goal for the next year to really create community on my blog. I want people to make friends here and share ideas here and feel loved.

I also wanted to share with you a feature you may or may not have noticed. When you leave a comment now you can click on the "notify me" box so when people (or I) respond to your comment then you'll get a little heads up. I really appreciate getting to know you guys better and love that you take the time to be a part of this little blog. Thank you!

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23 comments :

  1. I absolutely LUV this post! in all honesty you hit the nail on the head perfectly for what swirls around in my head. I wish we had a community like you speak of. I try to do that with the friends I have, but very few want to when it comes down to it. it saddens me, I wish there was more - I too am a people person, but all I can do is make sure that when those people are ready I practice what I preach. thank you for opening your heart

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    1. aw thank you! praying that you would find community. i think you are right about practicing what you preach. the more we open ourselves up to community, the more we find. i really do believe that. thank you!

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  2. I love this post Lesley and I love your blog! I read it everyday and follow you on facebook, but this may be the first time I have commented. keep it up!

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    1. so great to hear from you morgan!! thanks so much for following along. :)

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  3. Great post! A goal for my blog that I have not really put much effort into is to build friendships and a community of sorts too, like I see on so many other blogs. I think you will absolutely be successful in doing this :)

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    1. thank you sweet olivia! wishing for community for you too as you pursue it. xo

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  4. this is a sweet post. and I always feel like you are very inclusive, and nice. I'm not a 'cool' blogger but you are still nice to me! ;)

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    1. you are totally cool kelly. pssh. ;) thanks for the kind compliment!

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  5. I love that you are building community... it's such a hard thing to do. Sometimes it just takes bold brave moves to get the ball rolling, I've found it something that takes practice with me. Always worrying I will overstep or misunderstand, but in the end if those risks aren't taken then it's hard to build beyond the superficial. Thanks Lesley for being so sweet and sharing.... I just love reading your blog!

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  6. And of course I forgot to click "notify me" on my last post. Cool new feature!

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    1. thank you jenna lou! i just love having you as a part of this little community. you are such a breath of light and goodness. i'm all about getting a little messy and moving past any fronts that i might want to put on. perfection is for the birds. thank you SO much for reading and for your support. you are a gem!

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  7. sometimes i think that bloggers are more cliquey than real life people. I felt that worse than ever at blogher last year and it hurt. i never really did it in school nor do i do it now. although i do use the word bestie :)

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    1. HA totally. i am so sorry you had a bad conference experience. i had one too and it made me terrified of them but i'm breaking through that fear and going to alt this year. you keep using bestie girl. i know people love it, for some reason it just bothers me. ha! kind of like the word "moist." eep.

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  8. Lesley, this post is so great, and I hope you don't mind me sharing my heart- I adore your blog and have been reading it for ages now. I commented a couple times in the past and never received a response, so kind of thought I wasn't cool enough for you to respond to. I kept reading bc I love your content, but never wanted to comment again. So silly, I know!!! Of course you are a busy mama and don't have time to always respond to every comment. Anyhow, thought you might appreciate my realizing how silly I was being!! I can't wait to hear more about your group- I would LOVE a group like that!!

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    1. hi carrie! that is such a bummer that i hurt your feelings. i am SO sorry. i remember you commenting, i think it was around the time phoebe was born and i was a hot mess. thank you for giving me a second chance!! i used to few comments so differently... unless someone asked me a question, i never responded. i have no idea why?! i want people to respond to me when i take the time to comment. it was a weird misstep for sure. it's my mission to change that. thank you so much for reading and for grace. xo

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    2. and by "few" i mean view. ;)

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    3. so sweet, thank you!! i happily accept your apology!! it's funny because it wasn't until your post that i really even realized my feelings, and simultaneously how "high school" they were! expect more comments from me in the future! xo

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  9. thank YOU, lesley. for being such a bright light in this blog world. you and this space have such a welcoming vibe. can't wait to keep following along and be a part of this little "community" xx

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    1. xoxox thank you sweet friend! thankful that we met through blogging. love getting a glimpse into y'alls adorable family. thank you so much for reading and for your support!!

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  10. Girl! This couldn't have come at a better time!! I truly appreciate you and your space, you've been nothing but kind and that's refreshing. Thank you. :)

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    1. aw ditto ashley!! glad that i could meet you where you are at. it can be a struggle i know. thanks for your sweet words and for being an inspiring voice. x

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  11. this is one of my favorite posts that you have done. being a first time mom, i understand the "clique-iness" of some mom groups and it can be frustrating. thanks for being so open and honest :)

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    1. thank you so much chanel! that means a lot. sorry that you've dealt with some of that yuck. thank you for listening to me ramble! XO

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