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Finding Balance


Let me start out by saying that finding balance as a mother of young ones is a myth (from what I can tell). I think finding balance as a working mother is a big fat myth. So, I'm not going to be talking today about "tips on finding balance." I just want to let you know, you're not alone. If your work is succeeding, most likely you didn't whip up a homecooked meal. If your kitchen is spotless, most likely you are now behind deadline and have 10 emails to respond to. If you're cuddling with your babies, the pile of laundry grows bigger. It just is... what it is. I get frustrated by this fact because I want it all, but that's impossible...

Lately I've heard so many mamas going through this same battle. We beat ourselves up man. Women in general have tremendous to-do lists. I mean, I feel like I am constantly forgetting something. After all of the checking off, wiping, and kissing is done for the day I am just spent. I mean, spent. Last night I went to bed with mascara on and without brushing my teeth... I just couldn't. I tell you this not to gross you out but to hopefully comfort some of you going through the same struggles - of getting it all done, being an amazing mom, wife, friend, etc. It ain't easy. I will say that I have matured through wearing this new hat. I have notsomuch grace for myself, but TONS for everyone around me. Can't meet for coffee? I get it. Forgot my birthday? I understand. Couldn't remember your husband's phone number? I hear you.

I found this passage from Jesus Calling to be particularly timely for me a couple of days ago and I'd love to share it with you guys in the event that it will be a source of power in your day:

Do not let any set of circumstances intimidate you. The more challenging your day, the more of My Power I have placed at your disposal. You seem to think that I empower you equally each day, but this is not so. Your tendency upon waking is to assess the difficulties ahead of you, measuring them against your average strength. This is an exercise in unreality.

I know what each of your days will contain, and I empower you accordingly. The degree to which I strengthen you on a given day is based mainly on two variables: the difficulty of your circumstances, and your willingness to depend on Me for help. Try to view challenging days as opportunities to receive more of My Power than usual. Look to Me for all that you need, and watch to see what I will do. As your day, so shall your strength be.

ephesians 1:18-20 | psalm 105:4 | deuteronomy 33:25

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13 comments :

  1. Ahh Lesley, this is so timely...I'm sitting here at the desk in my home office utterly overwhelmed at the work I've taken on! I had to take a quick mental break to visit you, and feel like I gained so much strength from your post & the passage you shared. You're spot on: my work has really gained speed, but it also finds me on my laptop when I should be snuggling my hubby & my babygirl. I justify it by saying, well hey, I'm on the couch not in my office. But that's not good enough! I need to set better boundaries! But then would work slow down? Ugh, it's a constant see-saw! Anyhow, thanks for your words today- I appreciate you!!! As your day, so shall your strength be. I love that!

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    1. carrie i am so happy that were encouraged by that note too! it is a see saw - a true give and take and it just is that way. i've yet to figure out boundaries but if the kids are awake i typically don't work at all, which leaves work for when sam's home and then i feel stressed because i can't give him my full attention either. oy! i pray that you would find moments of deep connection each day with your family amidst the chaos. :)

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  2. I read that the other day, too, and it was much needed -- Dave was in the midst of 7 straight days out of town and it was one thing after another around here. We made it through, but I'm still recovering! And I agree that there's just no way to balance everything -- I was so exhausted yesterday while S was at school that I completely gave up and napped the ENTIRE TIME L was napping. So now, I'm more rested, but more rested to take on the huge pile of clean laundry that piled up b/c I napped yesterday, as well as the dirty kitchen that remains due to that nap as well!

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    1. seven days is no joke. makes you appreciate your husband, that is for sure. you are one tough mama, amy. it was seriously slices of cheese for dinner after sam was gone for just two days. you deserved that nap! i am not a napper but i can appreciate them nonetheless. can't wait for what's in store for you guys this next year. eep!

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  3. I think that type of increased grace for others can come with so many major life events. I certainly felt that new level of maturity that you're talking about after having kids as well. However, I felt it mostly for people I knew. I would still get frustrated if the grocery clerk wasn't very friendly or if the sales person at Home Depot didn't really want to help me find something . Then, my dad died suddenly a year ago and I struggled with it immensely. As a result, the grace I then began trying to bestow upon everyone I came across felt endless and comforting somehow. Now if I am around a stranger who seems angry, tired, and defeated I immediately think about what may be going on in their life. You are so right. Everyone seems to be trying to strike a balance. There are those too who are just trying to get through the day. I think offering that grace in any situation helps others to do the same for someone else. Love this post!

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    1. jana, i am so very sorry to hear about your dad. i can't even imagine your heartache. it's not fair to be robbed so young of our loved ones. breaks my heart. when we lost sam's parents i had a similar reaction, a sense of what's important and what isn't. it also showed me what was comforting when faced with devastation. i can only hope to bring comfort to others in times of tragedy. i used to hide from hard, uncomfortable situations that people were going through and now i embrace them because it's all part of the beautiful human experience, without loss i don't know that i would have arrived there as early. it's really amazing how we grow through our darkest times. praying blessings over you tonight.

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  4. I really needed this today. Especially since I don't have time to read Jesus Calling everyday! Balance is a thing of the past and man is hard trying to accept that truth. Love you sweet friend.

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    1. you are in the weeds right now my sweet friend. although, gideon is the most adorable flower amongst them, you are still finding your ground on little rest. i couldn't be more proud of you. one day you will be able to leisurely read books and drink coffee again. promise!! love you!

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  5. loved that days devotional. it was what I needed. I love your take on this. because there really aren't any tricks to getting it all done. thank you sweet girl. needed to be reminded of that

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    1. wasn't it perfect? that could be my devotional every day i'm pretty sure. a powerful pep talk! glad it spoke to you in just the right moment, too. XO

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  6. thank you for this post sweet friend!!! Some days are just plain hard, and even knowing that someone else understands is all the encouragement you need!! That Jesus Calling is so spot on DAILY!!!!! xo!

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    1. it really is!! i know you feel me sister. i'm so glad your matilda is feeling better! kisses to nashville!

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