Thursday, June 5, 2014

Home-Making

Tonight I'm curled up with a blanket listening to the dull sounds of thunder and the pitter patter of rain after a quick storm rolled in. The day is still on me a bit. Each evening seems to wear me a little thinner these days. When Phoebe gets tired she gets busier and more destructive and just recently my girls have finally started acting like sisters. Because they are four years apart, Matilda has been more like a little helper than sibling to Phoebe and all of a sudden now that Phoebe is talking some and mobile, it's like game on. They take each other's toys and blankets and I can see that Matilda needs extra love right now because Phoebe gets a lot of attention with her tiny babbling voice and duck-like waddle.

They are both so darn cute. I'm seeing the void though that Preschool was filling with entertaining Matilda and getting some of that energy out. She seems to need each moment of the day to be filled - just the other day we had a tea party, played in the sprinkler, went on two walks, played in the garden and that was just after lunch. Getting out today to meet friends was just the medicine I needed. I've decided that needs to happen every day.

As I mentioned a few times before, I've been reading Home-Making by JR Miller and it has been such nourishment and wisdom for my mama soul. I wanted to share some things that have given me pause and/or inspired me concerning the "home spirit." I'm praying over this post, hoping to communicate clearly:

"You can not give your child what you do not possess; you can scarcely help giving your child what you do possess." 

We impress ourselves upon our children less by what we teach them - than by what we are.

That whole adage of more is "caught than taught." I can tell my little ones over and over to be kind but if they hear me speaking unkind things or talking to them in a harsh tone than they are more apt to follow my lead than do as I tell them. This is something I am taking more and more seriously. Matilda is at an age where she is aware of everything and I'm working on speaking love and trying to be salt and light at all times so that I can model God's love to them.

Oh mothers of young children - your work is most holy. You are fashioning the destinies of immortal souls. 

The Persian fable says that the lump of clay was fragrant, because it had lain on a rose. Let your life be as the rose, and then your child as it lies upon your bosom will absorb the fragrance.

We have a huge job as mothers to steer our little ones in faith. To give them the tools of prayer and truth.

Indeed there is no deep, true and holy love, where selfishness rules.

This one is monumental for me because I do feel like my selfishness and my desires can trump doing what is most important sometimes. I get tired and cranky and I want alone time but my greatest job right now is to tend to my family, to serve them.

You know what a true Christian home ought to be. It ought to be a place where love rules. It ought to be beautiful, bright, joyous, full of tenderness and affection, a place in which all are growing happier and holier each day.

That is my life's mission.


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23 comments:

  1. Amen mama! Your girls are lucky to have a mom that "get's it." It's not easy but you're on the right track. Thanks for sharing your beautiful words.

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    1. thank you sweet amy! that means a lot!

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  2. Oh, so good, Lesley! Wasn't the rain perfection tonight? I really enjoyed it, too. And this morning was so great. Kind of can't believe how relaxing it was, haha! I'm totally getting this book.

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    1. it was so luxurious and wonderful. i think you'll really enjoy it! love you friend.

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    2. I really like following both you and Joni. A little worried I might sound crazy but y'all both seem so neat and like moms I could be friends with.

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    3. i'll take that as such a compliment lyn! not creepy at all. :) have a great weekend!

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  3. Lesley, I downloaded Home-Making after you mentioned it on the blog the other day. I was able to devour it in a couple of days. This came at a perfect time for me. I loved the book and am ordering a hard copy to reread and share with my husband. THANK YOU!

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    1. i am so encouraged by this! i really want sam to read it too. love the advice for husbands and wives.

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  4. Wow thank you for posting. Probably one of my most fav posts by you.

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    1. oh that makes me happy. thank you becca!

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  5. Thank you for this post! I'm a mama with two little girls, one 4 and one 13 months. I feel so stretched thin, going back and forth between protecting the little one from herself (she's a climber!) and giving the big one all the attention she craves (mommy, watch this!). I feel like there's nothing left for myself when I collapse into bed at the end of the day! If I can remember that all of this is actually what I want for myself and my family, the mundane things take on new meaning and fulfillment.

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    1. sending you a big hug because i know EXACTLY how you feel!

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  6. thank you, this was something i really need to read right now. My son is 3.5 and constantly testing me and a baby girl who is 8 months and doesn't always love sleep and i alway feel like i am loosing it. thank you for sharing and being a wonderful mama role model.

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    1. i don't know if i'm a role model but i'm so glad that i was able to share a little encouragement. some days are just hard! love to you guys!

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  7. Oh this is heart wrenching for me today. I feel so overwhelmed on a daily basis and am struggling not to take my frustrations out on my family. Cranky, frustrated and desperately wanting alone time?? That's me. I needed to be reminded that my absolute most important task right now is to create a loving, joyful, nurturing space for E, and even for Kev. I'm only a few months into this, but I can already see how much the role of a mama is one of servitude.

    You are doing a great job, Les! I miss you so much and wish daily that we were closer, especially now that I am following in your mama shoes. Praying for you and your beautiful, sweet family. Love you!

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  8. This post came to me after a rough night of guilt and edginess. I just took on a new position at work that is very demanding and high-stress. All day long I am inundated with whiney, needy, hyperactive people at the hospital. The whole of the week crashed upon me last night (I was home alone with Ruby while Reed worked late) and I did not act with kindness or patience. This morning I stumbled upon an article about Loving-kindness practice and it opened up a place of softness and kindness, not only for my family and my patients, but for myself as well. There's so much pressure to live in ways that our children will model. Thank you for reminding us mothers that we are not alone in this struggle.

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    1. i have the MOST respect for people like you nicole, that are helping nurture and provide health care. i bet those women love your calm, lovely self. it's so hard to bring our best to our family after long days but i'm thankful that you were encouraged and found some peace. sending you a big hug!

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  9. Your girls are adorable! I love your blog, by the way.

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  10. I love those girls so much. And their mama. :)

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