Monday, June 16, 2014

On Marriage: Serving Your Husband


We just got back in from the lake last night, where we spent the last couple of days celebrating my dad and Sam. Good fathers, those two. It was a really nice couple of days where there were naps and quiet moments to read (what?!). It was refreshing! I started reading this book over the weekend and it had me thinking a good bit about being a wife. So much of my time is spent thinking about being a mother.

I'll be the first to admit that Sam doesn't always get my best. The end of the day typically goes a little like this,"Hi honey, how was your day? Well, today x,y, and z happened with the kids. I'm exhausted." Welcome home! Courtney talks a lot about the importance of serving our husbands, making them feel good and loved so that they can face all they need to face. Sam works his butt of for us and sometimes I need to suck up my own stuff and take care of him. Is it easy to do after a long day? Not always, but serving when it comes from love is much easier. I'm also working on my bossy pants, letting Sam lead.

In the book there is a challenge for wives to try and do special things for their husbands each day for two weeks. I think it's a really awesome idea and something I'm going to be working on. Some of my favorite ideas are really simple:

  • make him his favorite meal (I'm embarrassed to say that I'm not sure what Sam would say - gonna ask!)
  • bring him a cold drink for no reason
  • pray for him - ask him daily what he needs prayer for
  • ask him what things make him feel disrespected (and stop doing them!)
  • find out what he ranks most important, his priorities 
  • kiss your man (like you mean it)! 
  • reflect on your dating days - dress up for him

I would love to hear from you on how you serve your man and make your marriage a priority. It's something I really want to get better at!

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17 comments:

  1. I think this is so great and so important! I agree and am feeling inspired to do the same - sometimes it's so hard to do! But really it's important to make your husband a priority because at the end of the day it spills over into making your marriage a priority which also makes your family a priority.

    Thank you for sharing!

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    1. agreed and agreed! so worth it though. have a great week, lady!

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    2. This post brings specific memories to mind of my parents (40 years). Every day, about minutes or so before Dad was due to arrive home from work, she would go upstairs to brush her hair, teeth, and change her clothes in order to make herself presentable. She would stand at the foot of the stairs and wait, where they would would have a greeting and a kiss. She fixed him a glass of iced tea and he would take 20 or so minutes to relax/change clothes/shower/ whatever. Every day.

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    3. that is beautiful christine!! kathleen has shared similar stories. such a good example. :)

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  2. You are hitting the nail on the head. Just got through reading the book of Titus where Peter instructs the older women to serve their husbands and to bring up the younger women to do the same. It's hard like you said after a stressful day. And for some reason, men seem to keep their stress to themselves more easily. Where I feel the need to vent all mine. Love you reflections! And Thanks for the book recommendation!

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    1. yes! why is that?! she actually talks a lot about the titus 2 woman. i need to read through that book! thank you for the encouragement!!

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  3. Such an amazing reminder! Thank you!

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  4. I have to admit even as a Christian woman, the idea of serving my husband makes me cringe a little. And I don't want it to! But it does. Something that I need to pray on more. :)

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    1. i think the word "serve" brings about some strong reactions. think of it more of making him feel loved and special. i know you're good at that. :)

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  5. We are not married yet, but pretty much live the life of being so. When my guy recently changed to a new job I started packing lunches for him. Such a simple thing and I will say that there are days where the last thing I want to do at night is pack him a lunch. However, the amount of appreciation I see from him just for packing a silly little lunch makes it all worth it. It truly makes his day that I do this for him and he thanks me regularly and it kind of makes me proud that I take the time (whether I want to our not) to do that for him. Love the thought behind your post!

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    1. packing a lunch is one of the examples she used in the book! i need to do that. it's the little things that mean the most, especially when some sacrifice is made. :)

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  6. I needed to read this today. As a mom, I focus a lot on my girl and taking care of her. My husband, god bless him, does so much for him, and when I stop and think about it, I know I can do more for him to make him feel loved. Let's face it, when the kids are grown up and out of the house, it'll just be us taking care of each other. I want to be in a good place when that happens, not estranged from each other.

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    1. amen to that! it's so important to keep that connection alive. thankful it was something helpful to read!

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  7. Thank you for this post! I totally needed this reminder. I like the ideas, especially the one about asking him what he needs prayers for. I think it would help open up the conversation about what he is dealing with on a daily basis. My husband deals with a lot of stress at work and still finds ways to stay calm and be an awesome dad/husband.

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  8. Thank you for this post. I have been thinking about this as well. I get so wrapped up in myself and I need to be more aware and more selfless. I so enjoy your posts. Thank you.

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  9. Oh goodness. This has been on my heart lately. Well, this and the other post about making time for myself- to be still and calm. I need that so badly in my life right now, I feel over-worked and completely (way) over into Momland. Not that that's bad (I love Jonah SO much), but I think I've gone too far to Mom, away from Wife. This is a huge struggle for me, I am still learning how to navigate the middle road. Thanks for the reminder. I'm going to start the two week challenge TODAY. Not tomorrow. Today.

    Hugs!

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